Getting Over A Loved Ones Death
86Celebrate a Life
Folks,
This page is meant to be some advice for Eileen in her time of grief, but hopefully it will help some other believers out there as well.
First of all, "having a hard time getting over the loved one" is completely natural. I don't know how long it has been since the loved ones passing, but it really does not matter. As a general observation, the stronger the love, the longer it takes to get over them. And quite frankly, I'm not sure what "getting over them" really means. That is different for each individual. If you truly loved them, you will never completely get over them. What you will do is learn to live with them from a different perspective. Then you will feel better about moving on with your life. How long it takes to do that is also different with each person.
Here are a few things that have helped me and others move from the "hard time" to "moving on" phase.
What I do know is this:
I personally believe there is an afterlife for all those who believe in a loving, merciful God. That afterlife is so much better than any life we experience while on earth. It is the best thing a person can hope and dream for. Your loved one has just achieved that. This is a cause for celebration.
Even though I have no intention of leaving this earth anytime soon, I have instructed my spouse to make sure that my funeral is not a mourning of my death, but a celebration of me reaching my goal. I want upbeat inspirational music. I want food, wine and song. I want people being happy for me.
I want people to continue to talk about me after my death (hopefully in a positive way). I don't want people to try to forget about me. That is a tough thing to do. That is one reason why people feel that sense of mourning for sooooo very long. They are dwelling on their own physical loss instead of the deceased glorious gain.
Yes people naturally feel the pain of losing someone who will not be there every day physically. But the sooner you begin to switch the focus and the talk from you to your loved one, the sooner the healing will occur.
Focus on the good that the loved one did and the great life they now have, with the knowledge that you will someday be joined with them again.
Don't feel at all bad if you cry while talking to people about your loved one. It is natural. But try, although it will be hard at first, to begin changing your focus and your talk away from your personal loss to the new life you are now starting with the loved one. They are not gone, they just take a different place in your life now. Begin talking about the positive things you are going to be doing with your life and know that your loved one would whole-heartedly approve.
I believe every person is put on this earth for a purpose that God has in store. Sometimes it is hard to figure out what His purpose was while your loved one was living, but it is usually much easier to understand after a person passes away.
Just a small physical thing you can do to help: I would suggest making a written list of all the good things your loved one did while on earth. Who did they help? Who did they touch? What example did they set for people who may have needed a good example?
For me, I know that I have a purpose while I'm here and I know where I am going when I leave this earth. When I die, these are good reasons for my friends and family to take some time to celebrate (of course they will have to mourn their physical loss a bit). But then I truly hope they will quickly move on with me still in their hearts.
With our loved one in your heart, you still have a lot of good to do on this earth. So for your loved ones sake, get going.
I am sure every departed love one, including yours Eileen, wants that.
Keep positive, keep faithful, and Help Someone UP Today!
copyright © 2008 Rodney Grubbs
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I don't think people really get over the death of a loved one their life goes on and time it gets easier but everyone has to go at their own pace.
thanks for that strory i just lost my mom
Chris, we will pray for you today. We will mourn your loss as well as celebrate your mother's great new life. May you be blessed today.
Death leaves a heart ache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal
I lost my father 6 months ago and really i cant stop thinking of it I feel my whole life revolves around it happy moments become sad and sAD JUST REMAIN SAD!!!!
Thank you for this, I have recently lost my school friend, who was a good and kind person. Thanks again for the help, Aden...
my teacher died of cancer....i was at school and we had to go to the lunch room and they told us that he passed away.....i just want to see him one more time my whole class was crying....i miss him...he was the greatest...
Shelley, Crying is fine. It is a natural part of the grieving process. One of the best ways to help get through the process is to talk a lot about him. Talking about all the great things that he did with your class or things that made him a standout teacher. Celebrate his life to help preserve his memory. Putting your focus on him and not on your pain will help.
life teaches everything.
I understand that death is a fact of life. But no matter what I try I can,t get over the loss of my grandmother and it has been over 12 years. To be honest you make it sound like it,s like loosing your pet.I can not believe no one has gone through the gief I am going through.I will probaly never get over it.
Jeff, Everyone is different when it comes to the grieving process because, well everyone is different individually, and everyone has their own unique relationship with the one who passed away. It sounds like you had a great relationship with your grandmother. It has been 26 years since my grandma died and I still think of her often. Generally when I think about her, I also then talk about her to someone. I tell them what a great woman she was and about all the good times she made for me. This somewhat helps me forget my pain of losing her (grieving is the act of focusing on your pain of loss) and instead helps me keep her memory alive while celebrating how good her new life is. I am very happy for her. Still sad for me, but I now, after many years, think more about her happiness than I do my sadness. Again, it is a gradual shift and everyone is different. This is just a quick thought, but maybe it would help if you did something physical to remember and celebrate the life of your grandmother. Maybe do something like build a memorial or start and build a charitable fund of some kind. Anyhow, all the best in your individual process. Be blessed.
Its been about 9 years that my mother passed away, it still hurts to this day, but I do know she is with God so its great that way, no more pain. great hub
wolfpack5, your mother was obviously blessed while here, to have someone who would still keep her memory alive nine years later. Thanks for sharing and be blessed!
i lost my partner scott afew weeks ago
i still talk to him it helps me get thou
I just lost my grandmother last week, and this is all I think about. Asking myself why, why now. I am getting married on October and all i wanted is for her to be there. She owned a business where two of her daughters work and I. Every time we walk in that place we expect seeing her sitting here. It's hard getting over this since we worked together every day.
Kelsey, I also lost my Grandmother last week. I feel as though she was stolen before her time and she also promised me that she would be around for my wedding. Sadly, she couldnt keep her promise.Grandmothers are a precious gift. Theyre Matriarchs and someone who you have always had around you. Its a shock when you realize they are gone. Now all we have are memories of a very special women. Our grandmothers are in a beautiful place and one day we will see them again. They will always be watching over us.
We never get over it, we learn to get through. My heart goes out to all who have lost anyone. I lost my only child of 16 to suicide.
I just lost my dad yesterday
i just lost my husbund two weeks ago due to vehicular accident, until now I'm still griving . He was only 32 years old and we have a son who is 7, I dont know if i can move on as time goes by the pain becomes worst , I'm appealing from all af you to please pray for me
I lost my mom to cancer 2 years ago. There is not one day that I dont miss her, her smile, her words, her hugs, she was 50. It is very difficult for me to undestand why someone was to suffer that much..... I have no answers for this feelings...... I hope life has some meaning someday, because right now It does not look that way
Susan, I also lost my husband a few weeks ago from Cancer, he was 54 yrs old. We have 2 boys (teenagers). Losing someone you love so much is so painful that it hurts!! I said the same thing you said, I don't think I can go on and yes the pain did get worst.. I thought it would be right after his death but it took a few weeks to hit me like a brick wall.. but then someone told me, you have 2 beautiful children, would your husband want you to give up, the answer is NO.. My husband would want me to be happy, to look after the kids and take care of them & myself, and live my life!! My love for my husband will never go away, now when I look at my kids, I see him or remember things he would tell me about the kids.. to be honest it makes me smile!! Its almost 2 months now that he has left me, I still cry .. My confort is that everytime I think of him, the closer he is to me!! So yes it is very hard, and it hurts but think of what he would of wanted for you.. Happiness and well being!!! I get thru it one day at a time.. Big hugsss to you and everyone whom lost someone dear to them :)
I lost my mate last night, he was hit by a car. I dont think i will ever get over his death :[.
i lost my sister last week to cancer,,it hurts like no pain i have ever known....theres days i cant breath ..i miss her......so much,,,
I lost my best friend one year ago .... I am just ealizing that he is really gone.
I am just now feeling the pain!!!!
i lost my sister a month ago..we lived only 5 mins away..we did everything together ,she was my maid oh honor.....she will never be out of my heart
i lost both my nans 5 years ago a few days ago. they same time heals it but it doesnt. for me i just miss them more as its been longer since ive seen and spoken to them and that. just miss them so much. i was 12 when they died and i was really close to them both and then one died on 20th and one on the 24th which was horrible for me. to be honest i dont think ill ever get over them.
If tears could build a stairway,
And memories a lane,
I'd walk right up to Heaven
And bring you home again.
~Author Unknown
I lost my grandma 2 weeks ago and i get married in 3 weeks, i wanted her there so much and she wasnt ill or anything so i never thought she wouldnt be there, i miss her so much and although i am looking forward to my wedding it will hit me hard when i dont see her there. it doesnt seem real at the minute, the funeral was the worst day of my life, i would do anything to bring her back or see here again
I lost my brother a month ago, and it hurts so much .It's unexpected death , and my life when off , i cannot think well. Everyday i am thinking of him . Its the worst time of life and i don't know how long will i get over the lost, knowing that i will never see him again.
I just lost my dad and he was my hero....having a hard time..
I lost my dad three weeks ago, it still feels like yesterday, the pain is something I cannot describe, I feel like I might go mad, I am just so sad that dad is no longer here, I went to see him 6times in the chapel and just stoked his head and hand, everytime I close my eyes this is how I see him and my heart is breaking, I feel like inside I want to collapse with grief, it's the hardest thing ever, I just wish life would stop now there really seems no point to it all, dad wasn't ready to go and I wasn't ready for him to go. I miss my daddy.
I lost the most wonderful man, I had ever met a month ago. I cannot express my sorrow and complete devastation. I think I might lose my mind.My mom died in August '05 and my dad died in August '04. And now my lover, I feel like everyone I love dies. They always leave me. I am so brokenhearted and sad. I am deeply depressed.
i lost my little cousin allmost 2 weeks ago he was murdered a 2 months ago i lost my grandfather i have lost loved ones to cancer ,heart problems old age but when some one takes a young mans life 20 years old soon as i open my eyes he is the first thing on my mind iam just trying to take it one day at a time
I lost my mother 2years and 2months ago. She was my prayer partner, my support system, my mentor, my blockbuster night watcher..she was my bestfriend. Who ever said "times heal" lied. For me the tears has NEVER stopped. So as time goes on, I have been practicing on how to live with the pain. And because I believe, I can't wait to be with my family on the other side. But I can't go until God calls me.
I am in my 30's and never been in love. Someone said that if you haven't love you havent lived. It ripped me apart. A few hours before my mother passed, I kissed her on the lips and in that moment realized.. I have loved and been loved. And no one or nothing can take that away from me.
We all are suffering from a lost of a loved one..So Know That You Are Not ALONE
I love you Jacob. I'm trying to find something to make me feel better but I am still inconsolable. I miss you so much. You were the best brother ever.
i lost my boyfriend in march and it still seems like yesterday, am depressed loosing weight not eating or sleeping properly, I've tried counseling but nothing seem 2 work...i know its only been 5 mths, but is it normal 2 b thinking abt him almost 24hrs everyday? and i do mean almost 24hrs everyday
Hi
Last week Saturday I buried my fiance whom I lost to the illness of Meningitis. I don't know how I'm going to get over all of this pain that has me down and has left me with no reason to wake up tomorrow... I feel like letting go of EVERYTHING in life!
When you make someone your everything and your whole world and you lose them, you lose everything and your whole world gets shattered in the twinkling of an eye. From what I see, the pain will never go away; I just don't know how I'll learn to live with it...
God has crushed me! I have served him all my life and have always strived at being at a higher level than my peers through God and following His ways; through all of that striving for Him, He has taken away my everything! He has crushed me!!!
R.I.P Nondi, Forever is for how long I will love you. Lead me, guide me along the way, if you lead me I know that I cannot stray.
Peace...
Beth (South Africa)
Yea ., ur right but its really hard
I lost my husband almost six months ago.He was killed in a motorcycle accident. I miss him so much and it does seem worse at times as I realize that he is not coming back.The holidays are around the corner and the chilly weather.He was everything to me,so full of life, only 43 yrs old.I pray for all of us to find some peace along the way as we try to cope with our grief.For me it is still so hard to accept the sudden death aspect.
I lost my wonderful kind dad who was also my best friend on Sunday 24th October.....rest in peace dad, you will forever be in my heart xxxxx I love you xxxx
I lost my beloved Gram and best friend a week ago. I still can't believe she is gone. I saw her every day for 10 years, and now shes gone. I can't get begin to get over it, and don't think I ever will.
Miss and love you Gram, you will always be the light of my life!
This is a horrible place to be in!
God bless you all.
4 months have passed and I still miss my Dad so much it feels like someone has their hand in my stomach and is pulling it out, I can't beleive my daddy has gone we should have had at least another 20years together, my hero has gone, I still keep thinking your coming home dad, I would hive my life up for you in an instant Dad even just to see you for a second, my heart aches for you all going through your own grief, it's the worst thing ever.
I miss my Dad so much I can't breathe.
I just lost my bird,tweety today she was my best friend, I am having a hard time getting over her.
She was 6 months old.Have fun in heaven!
i just lost my best friend ever. he shot hiself i really loved him with all my heart. this really helps me alot. thank you so much. Shane i love you i will pray every night for you. 12-20-10
i lost my boyfriend almost 3 years ago.... and sometimes i still cry, i cant help but remember him, to tell u all the truth if he were still alive i dont really think we would still be together but what hurts me the most he died when i most loved him....
the night of his car accident my mom did not let me go out that night would i be telling u all this if i would have been in his truck????
well, who knows all happens for a reason never give up and if u ever get a wake up call like i did just going to be something important of my life and that is not really making a lot of money but making my life mean something !!!!
i still
Lost my beautiful neice to respiratory failure after she contracted the swine flu. She was only 22. It's been over a year and I still cry almost every day, she was like my own daughter. No one else could ever take her place. Always thought she would do great things and now she is gone. God bless you all. Life goes on...
Your words mean so much to me. I just lost my dear grandmother. Not only was she my dear Dear Rodney Grubs: My grandmother but my best friend. I tell myself to be happy for her new life with my grandfather who passed away over a decade ago. I think of what you suggested often; to celebrate their acheivments and in other words don't only focus on your own grieving, but focus on how they made an impact in your life. There has never been a doubtin my mind as to what her purpose in my life was for. I knew that she would help me become a loving person and that she was the person I would look up to and admire in my life. What you wrote made me think. I want to continue to live my life in a manner that would make her proud.
I lost my little brother 8 years ago in may,and it eats me alive to this day I miss him with all my heart,and you guys really help n im sorry for ur losses what keeps me goin is knowin that one day we'll meet again in heaven...thats if I make it lol but know we have to live for GOD and them,so lets keep it movin for those in our hearts...Rest In Peace Omar Jr. I love u bro always
I lost my little brother 8 years ago in may,and it eats me alive to this day I miss him with all my heart,and you guys really help n im sorry for ur losses what keeps me goin is knowin that one day we'll meet again in heaven...thats if I make it lol but know we have to live for GOD and them,so lets keep it movin for those in our hearts...Rest In Peace Omar Jr. I love u bro always
I lost my husband two months ago I am having a hard time we was marry 15years I loved him so much I can make it during the day the nights when it so lonely.I have a little dog he helps me so much.wish I could be around poeple who has lost somone they could be a help to me .Just pray for me.my husband his name charles Ray Potts I always love you
I lost my soul mate just 15 days ago..He loved me like anything.He had Mar-fan Syndrome which was not diagnosed properly at the right time.I loved him very much , He was the light of my life.. we had so many dreams and planned to get married next year.. I am missing him like anything, wherever i look and whatever i think he is always there its paining inside like anything.. just can't take it any more
I lost my granny and mom on the same day 3 weeks ago and i'm in so much of pain. I still can't believe that she is not around. I'm so lost and life seems just meaningless for me.I dont know what to do...I can see that I'm not alone, but this pain is so much, just unbearable. I loved my mom sooo much. The thought that I'll never be able to see her or talk with her again is just killing me..I pray for everyone here who lost their loved ones, and ask God to give us strenghth to overcome this grief..
i just lost my grandfather last wednesday night he has been in my life for 19 years and was 89 when he died
i just lost my grandfather last wednesday night he has been in my life for 19 years and was 89 when he died
I lost my best friend and lover a year and three months ago, and I still dream about her. She always smiles and hugs me acts like she's still alive, but when I wake up I realize it was all a dream, and then I cry because I can feel her still with me, but I can't hug her and tell her I love her with all my heart like I used to.
Sometimes when I'm dreaming I ask her if I really am, and sometimes she tells me the truth, sometimes she refuses to answer. Today I just realized how much I truly miss her, and it's never going to go away.
i just lost my dad and im thirteen and its hard but life goes on and take your time no matter who it is if its your friend or your parents take as long as you need its the way you go it is a medicin to your body i know how it feels to lose a loved one he was so young but it was his time and so for all you who lost a loved one dont look up how to get over a loss you dont its life
god dont exist !!!!!!!!! my grandad was taken from me and he has lead a blameless life.there are people out there stabbing and beating up innocent people and nothing happens to them. NO GOD, NO SUPERIOR POWERS AND NO AFTER LIFE !!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you for the encouragement. My darling wife passed on to glory about 3 weeks ago after she was delivered of a healthy baby boy . I personally believe I have not lost her but I am terribly missing her.
She ran an NGO for the educational needs of the less privileged children. Full of vision and zeal for God and service to humanity, she was the best thing that ever happened to me. Gone too soon at 37.
Thank you for the encouragement. My darling wife passed on to glory about 3 weeks ago after she was delivered of a healthy baby boy . I personally believe I have not lost her but I am terribly missing her.
She ran an NGO for the educational needs of the less privileged children. Full of vision and zeal for God and service to humanity, she was the best thing that ever happened to me. Gone too soon at 37.
Just recently lost a close cousin of mine suddenly and was not really sure how to cope. She was always smiling and helping people, truly beautiful inside and out. Now I have decided to do more for others and keep her "Hakuna Matata" motto. Great write up, and thank you for sharing.
-R.I.P. JB
Thanks Rodney
I lost my dear husband last week .I appreciate your comments on passing and the ones left here.
lost my dad to a routine operation. love you dad. i am still numb
My best friend just lost her mother suddenly, I don't know how to handle it or be there for her. It was so random, and sudden, and they do not know of a reason. My friend is only 19 and she is having a tough time. Please pray for her and her family.
I just lost my dad 5 days ago and the pain im feeling is terrible, one minute im crying the next im angry at my kids im so confused and dont know how to cope with this....i miss him so much i just want to see him or hear his voice again,
That's pretty useful advises.Glad to read this hub. Thank you.
Thank you.This summer I lost my husband who was best friend ,supporter,and lover.He was an example of what a good christian should be.
I miss him so much I cry every day,even though he has to be in a better place,like you say ,I'm thinking of myself.I am lonely and empty.
But I'm trying.
I lost my youngest sister over a year ago and both my parents 5 years ago. It's really been hard for me. Seems like all my family is dying back to back! I just dont understand why this is happening! Only the good Lord knows. I thought losing parents was painful but the lost of my youngest sister hursts the most. She was on 32 when she died and she left a 10 year old son behind whom lives with me now.
I'm here again rereading your article.It makes me feel greedy when lots of people have lost much younger loved ones. But I can't stop my tears and lonliness.I can't imagine life without him for the long term.We were older,but still in love and had so many plans for our bucket list.
Thank you for sharing this hub.
I lost my ten year old son to cancer about 4 months ago. I wish time would heal my heart but it only seems to get worse. I know he is in a better place because he suffered for two years. He was like an Angel! He was the most handsome little boy with beautiful brown eyes and a beautiful smile that lit up a room. I always thought he would be here with me and watch him grow. Please pray for me and my family that we will heal and find peace for our little boy.I miss him so much!
I lost my ex boyfriend, who I thought I would get back with but we will never get that chance, in this lifetime. the pain of loss is a physical hurt. my entire body feels utterly, and truly heartbroken in a way I never thought possible.
I lost my grandma (meme'r) yesterday. Im sad because a week before she died I went to visit her at the nursing home and when I left I didn't tell her I loved her because I thought id see her again but I guess I was wrong. It feel like she's not even gone though. I can't except the fact that I'll never see her again.
i lost my grandfather on dec 3 and i just say him for thanks giving and he was doing so fine until he took his church to a funeral and he was hit by a drunk driver and it didnt hit me until not jan 7 2012 34 days after he died i really need some help during this time
I lost my mom 4 years ago but it seems like yesterday I was only 19. It was so sudden one day she was fine and the next day she was gone its just so hard I think about her all the time will my heart ever heal itself again
So sorry for all your losses, my beloved husband Carroll
passed away 11/1/11. A day we dread but somehow hold on to the will to live. I thank God for every day we had together and although we had different religions he believed totally in God but not organised religion.
He was the kindest, romantic, caring person I ever met it was a privelidge to be his wife.
It hurts like hell but I know he would want me to be positive and so for his sake I must try.
Goodnight sweetheart till we meet again like you told me. xxxxxxxxx
How can you move on with your life after the death of a father?
Nora, you will move on with your life because that's what your father wants.
I lost my mom, suddenly, five years ago. It still hurts a lot, sometimes like it was that very day.
You have to remember that the last thing your father wants is for you to be sad. He's grateful you miss him, but he wants you to be happy. He is with you always- he has not gone away.
Thank you :)
I agree Nora - my heart is also breaking following the death of my darling daddy on 23rd December. dad was 89 years and i am 51. My emotions are swinging between sad, angry,(anger like i have never felt!), disbelief - i feel like my heart has been ripped out! Dont think i will ever be happy again- at this moment in time i dont even want to feel happy again!
It's been a year now since my Dad passed away. I must admit it has made stay focused because I want to make him proud. I try to think about the good memories but every time I start to cry. This is the toughest thing I've ever had to deal with. This hurts.
SO sorry for everyone's losses. I lost my granmother 2 years ago. I think of her all the time and i cry at night alot thinking about her. i miss her so so much. she was 95 when she passed away and we all thought she would be here for our forever. she wasnt sick until the day she died...i used to call her every night or every 2md night and we would talk for an hour...she was not only my grandmother but my best friend. I STILL dont know how to live without her and find myself lost.No one seems to understand me...they say things like "well what did you expect, she was 95" . She was so much more then just my grandmother. She would come stay with us for 3 or 4 months each year and i would go to her house each summer. I know she would not want me to be sad...but i am..i cant shake it ...i am starting to think this is not normal. Does anyone else feel this way?
Alana , we all feel very sad and depressed beacuse we lost a loved one..but what can we do? We should keep in mind that they are watching us from heaven and we must try our best to make them proud..afterall, we don't want to make them feel bad for us right? We are all going to be joined with our loved ones some day.Now we should "try" to move on.Death is the hardest thing anyone can handle :(
This was lovely i lost my partner of 12 yrs but i cant seem to cry he died october 2010 i feel guilty for not crying all the time but this just must be my way of dealing with it .XxX
my dog was mauled and died this week end....thank you for your words of comfort .... and i pray for all of you....
i lost my son on the 9th of feb 2012 at the age of 28 and i feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest...i have already forgot the bad and only remember the good and i know god has plans for him but every day i struggle....thanks for listening.
I lost my wife from cancer i 1994. people say you will get over it be you never do. Its been neraly 18 years and the hurt is just as bad now asv it was then. If any one wants to get back to me please feel free.
I have been through an awfull bereavment. If you want to contact me to have a chat please contact me on sumerbee15@hotmail.com.. dont be shy.
I lost my Dad in 2004, then Mum in 2006 and then my younger sister in 2010. I am really struggling about losing my sister, she was right up there with my kids, so important, so amazing, my best friend. I feel hopeless now that I have to live without her. Your words have helped. She helped every person and animal she came across and she lived by the adage, Kindness is the Highest Form of Wisdom. This world is so stark and grey without her. Except for my kids, I really don`t want to be here.
Even though I didn;t know them real well, I can't get over the death of two innocent teenage girls who lost their lives in a car accident a few weeks ago.Remembered, Never Fogotten.
I'm 11 and my grandpa just recently passed away :( I'm not going to say he..you know. Because I don't believe ANYONE can die. I cry whenever I see a picture of him, listen to sad music, think of him.. :( I am so weak right now...
I lost my mum aged 89 years 5 days ago, she is at peace now but i cant get the last 24 hours of agony out of mind, she had a pacemaker and it wouldnt let her go peacefully. The gap in my life is so big, i just find the way to go on.
I lost my beloved man two weeks ago, he died in front of me in our home of a massive heart attack. I am a professional and have helped others cope with the death of a loved one, however I can't seem to move on I feel his loss so much and miss his touch, his voice and his just being here. I cant think of how to go on. I lost my dear friend one month ago and my oldest grandson three years ago, my Dad 10 years ago and my 2nd son 15 years ago,(he died as a result of his AIDS status and I cared for him for five years before he died at home) it seems just like too much to bear this time. I believe in life everlasting and in the resurrection through Christ Jesus, what do I do? I need help.
i lost my nans next door neighbor a couple years ago we went and helped her every morning ive know her since i was 5 i didn feel really sad then just shocked now i feel so sad i could just sit down and cry for days i couldent even go to the funarl wich didnt really help
its been 16 yrs since i lost my first love and i still have nightmares daily sometimes its hard for me to even go to sleep cuz im so scared of the flashbacks someone please help
my beautiful mum went on holiday 4 years ago and that was the last time i see her alive,she was taken ill while only one day into her holiday and sadly passed away a week later i could not fly out to be with her as i was 3 months pregnant and it was not safe for me to go and that is soooo hard to live with as she was always there for me and i felt i let her down . four months after my dad was told he had cancer and 3 months after that i lost my dad its sooooooooo hard i miss them soooo sooooo much i still cry most days and feel so lost without them i just wished they never had to go they went to soon they was only 62 and 63.
My grandma died 2 weeks ago from a long battle with cancer. I grew up with her and lived with her for 13 of my teenage years. We did everything together she taught me so much. The last year of the battle she had to go through so much. Reading what you wrote is helping, I just don't see myself going back to normal.
I just lost my only brother !! Is a heart ache I can't explain ! But I don't think I will fill better for a long time ! I love him so much
After my brother commited suicide my father was diagnosed with terminal cancer and given approximatly 2 weeks to live, he lived 11 years and for that i am eternally grateful but my entire insides feel empty, my father was so positive and i was myself until he went from my life and even though i know he would be so sad that i am feeling like this i seem to be getting worse not better, i feel that i must have been persecuted for something in another life because i live daily with the heartache and nomatter what i try to do to soilder on until i meet them again i am going through a hell on earth without them in my life. the only thing i believe in to get me through is my belief in god and that i will meet them in heaven if i can endure the pain i have to for some perverted reason here on earth first
I just lost my husband some months ago, way to soon, too young... The loss, the aloneness, just seems so overwhelming. Grief is a hard journey w/ much searching and many set backs... Just taking it one day at a time.
I lost my husband two weeks ago 28 April 2012 in a car accident. He died before he even reached the hospital We have two children 8years and two years. I dont know how i will pull through and I am only asking God to help me to accept and give me strength to move on. I have so many questions but not getting any answers. Please pray for me.
Atontour 4 years ago
As a grieving mother who just recently nursed a terminally ill son at home, your comments are so true and I thank you for sharing them. We did the positive memories prior to my sons death, so that he was aware of how we would remember him. It was very important to him. And it helped us too. A great and throughtful article. Thank you.